Walking back from the train tonight, it finally feels like fall is on the way. The air is just that much less humid; the sun doesn’t hit quite so hard. There’s a chill in the breeze that makes me wish I’d tucked in my jacket, that long-forgotten companion.
My mail, of course, has been telling me this for weeks. Car tag renewals. Tax assessments due. Insurance statements. Dear Magda, you have lived in the commonwealth coming up three years. Congratulations! Please pay. I’ve mostly pushed them to the side; “October’s in forever!” I’d say, panting, reaching out to crank up the air.
Here on my desk, however, is the penultimate: the lease. Due back tomorrow.
I have renewed it for a six-month term. I will be here, guaranteed, through April 30, 2010. Past that point? Uncertain.
Preceding this signature was a would-be argument, a “when will we be together”-fueled feistiness; a “do you or do you not see us together?,” triggered by hormones (in the least degree), raw love (in the highest degree), and the emotion of uncertainty (most of all). When it all settled out, we said six months.
I called my mom over the weekend. “I’m thinking six months,” I said. Saieth she: “That sounds about right.” MOM. HELLO. This is your oldest daughter, your first-born child; you’re going to agree to this whole “screw my career, and my roots; this is real love” campaign? And wait, what’s that, you’re a donor, too? Well. Okay then. Way to throw me for a loop. (seriously, there I was ready to defend myself when … wait. You support this? You think this is a good idea? mmmmm-kay…)
Do I want to be with him? Yes. Do I want that to be soon? Absolutely, especially on days like today, days where I’m easily reminded of precisely why the second-most popular search term leading to this blog–after those savvy travelers googling “quart-sized ziploc”–is “my job makes me want to kill myself,” else a close variant thereof. Indeed! Can’t offer much more than commiseration, I’m afraid; alas, though, YES.
The idea of being a New Yorker come the spring is outrageously romantic. That’s where I am with it, though; it’s still an idea. I’m living a fairy tale in so many ways, but something about my inked signature on this paper is hauntingly permanent. April. I could well change plans, renew again, or go month-to-month, as extortionist as those rates are. Then again, I could be headed north, singing a “suck it” tune in the direction of my boss’ office, and moving on to brand new things all our own. (It all just seems so fast, though; even four months ago, I’d never have considered giving up this place, not to mention packing my life into boxes and moving it across state lines).
I feel a bit like Cinderella, half way through, the third or fourth time you read it; you know she’s got a happy ending coming if she can just scrub enough floors to get from page to page. There’s something deeply satisfying about that promise, but just knowing it isn’t enough: Prince or no price, her hands are still in that bucket for at least this page and probably the next, and she’s likely breathing in lye; she’ll get there, but that’s not to say it’s not a struggle. It’s coming, and soon. I can see it, and planning for it’s good; I feel like I know this ending, but it’s not mine yet.
So I have this lease here. This apartment never was going to be forever, this life here never was forever, and six months is just a signature at this point. It doesn’t mean anything permanent. It represents something, though; something tangible. It’s good, but I’m a bit scared as well. (!HA. Okay, a lot scared, when I really sit down and think about it. Me? Moving in the spring? Come again?).
I’m going to eye it over one more time, kiss it goodbye, and trot it on downstairs; then celebrate, with a little glass of porto. To new opportunities, taking chances, and new possibilities: to risks and love and trust and faith. cheers cheers.

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September 1, 2009 at 8:18 am
madeleine
It is something you’ve obviously thought about/discussed before, but when the reality of it sets in, this can really happen, it does throw in a load of emotions. Turning over a new leaf is not exactly the correct phrase for this, but I hope you will go through with it, if it makes you happy. Love is worth it
and I understand your surprise about your mother not protesting; I would think mine would protest, but in actuality, she would be a supporter as well.
September 1, 2009 at 8:32 am
notsojenny
six months sounds about right… i’m with mom on this one!
when it’s right it’s right, and you just know it. by all accounts of yours it sounds “right”
go with it… don’t question it, as hard as hormones make it!
you’ll love NY : )
September 1, 2009 at 8:43 am
ihavetwodogsandlovewine
It’s like that line from Closer: “I’m your stranger. Jump!”
Sometimes you just have to jump.
September 1, 2009 at 8:44 am
Suz
I would be scared too. But sometimes the best things in life happen when you just have the hope and faith to step off that ledge into the unknown. Plus you do have six months to get used to the idea. I bet by spring you will be so ready for your new adventure!
September 1, 2009 at 3:35 pm
Maris
Suuure, you move to New York when I’m ready to leave
It’s great that they give you the option of a 6 month term on your lease. Some don’t even give you that and ugh, how annoying to be stuck somewhere for a year.
September 1, 2009 at 6:11 pm
Sassy Molassy
not a bad uncertainty in my book! woohoo! here’s to leases not to be resigned (i’m in this sort of situation-planning to move in with the bf. wow. scary to say, er write, out loud.
September 1, 2009 at 9:14 pm
A Super Girl
It’s great you have your mom’s support, and if I was you I’d be scared as well. It’s natural, and as you said, it is just a signature. It can be changed.
But, it sounds like it won’t need to be and that’s kind of exciting to think about!!!
September 2, 2009 at 3:48 pm
CarGirl
Best thing about life is nothing is permanent if you don’t want it to be (except for maybe kids – you’re stuck with those suckers forever!). This daunting move to NY in the spring? It’s something you can change your mind on; undo; renege upon. And if you do move – and 2 months in realize he’s actually an alien in a PhD’s body – then you can walk away and start your life anew. The possibilities are endless – and wonderful
September 3, 2009 at 12:11 am
Mel
Six months is a little quick in the real world but in the I’m in love world it could work.
I have another place to visit when I come to the east coast.
September 3, 2009 at 8:32 am
DanceintheRain
I think the moving will be exciting for you – for many reasons. And seriously, from everything you’ve shared with us here, it doesn’t sound so crazy to move to be with him at all! When did you guys get together? Right before you went to India at the beginning of the summer? So if you move up to NY at the end of April, beginning of May, you will be together for almost a year. That’s not crazy at all. I moved in with L after 10 months. I only crossed county lines, but still. If it’s right, you know it. And obviously your mom knows it too, otherwise she would have cautioned you rather than agreeing with you. I think it will be great!